I was at a Google hangout last night and one of my colleagues said something that really hit home. She said she had issues letting go of feeling responsible for the failure of her referrals. I could really identify with that but did not realize until she said it that I was having the same guilt issues when someone I referred didn't see any success even though I helped them as much as I could. I know that you cannot change someone's mindset as they must do that on their own. Giving them a hand up and giving them a handout are two very different things. Should I steer them in the right direction, of course. Should I drive the car for them, no definitely not.
I also realized that because I wanted other people to succeed so badly I gave up much of my time that could have been used in much more productive ways. Will I stop helping people? No, that is not my nature. Will I step back a bit and let them develop their own game plan and mindset? You bet!
Mother Hen is going on vacation, see you soon :)
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